“One trace of condemnation against ourselves, or others, is a trace of condemnation against the Universal Creation of Love, and restricts us, limits our power to allow the Universal Love to flow through us to others.” – Dr. Edward Bach
One of the areas of focus on The Heart Of Awakening Blog this year is Transforming The Inner Critic. Our inner critic or negative voices can keep us from accessing our true essence and allowing our authentic selves to emerge. As we work with May Is For Metta 2013 and particularly in cultivating loving-kindness and compassion for ourselves, it is not uncommon to unearth or come face to face with our critical voices. There are many practices and techniques that can support the transformation of our inner critic including meditation, affirmations, self-reflection, creative explorations and additionally, the Bach Flower Remedy Pine can be helpful in this area.
It is interesting that essentially the Bach Flower Remedies work similarly to our practice in that they are helping to bring a positive quality or vibration into our energy field. In Metta, we are doing this with the energy of loving-kindness and compassion. In working with other affirmations, we may be choosing a particularly quality such as love, peace or joy. The Pine remedy brings in the qualities of Self-Esteem, Self-Forgiveness, Self-Acceptance, and Self-Love. By flooding our energy field with these positive vibrations we are thereby transmuting the negative or imbalanced aspect self connected to this remedy.
As someone who has tended to have very strong Pine tendencies, I can attest that this remedy is incredibly beneficial in transforming our inner critic. It is a journey I continue to work on and that is part of the inspiration for our theme of Transforming Your Inner Critic Into Your Inner Cheerleader. I have also seen Pine to be of great help to others in this area through my holistic healing practice. Although this remedy can be beneficial for anyone, I have found that in working with individuals recovering from trauma, abuse and addictions it seems to be a core pattern and one that needs to be addressed to support healing and transformation.
Pine is indicated for people who feel full of guilt and self-reproach; they blame themselves for everything that goes wrong, including other people’s mistakes. They feel undeserving and unworthy. Often, their guilt complex and feelings of shame are not necessarily based on any actual wrongdoing but the power of these feelings literally destroys any possibility of joy in living.
“Pine” people appear humble and apologetic; they will apologize for being ill and may feel they deserve their illness of pain. They are the folks who say, “I’m sorry”, all the time, even when they haven’t done anything wrong. In some way they seem to be apologizing just for being.
This weekend I participated in an author panel for Inspired Voices: True Stories Of Visionary Women, a collaborative book that I am a contributor in. When Andrea Hylen, founder of the Heal My Voice project, read the Introduction to the book aloud, I was struck at how her words seem to sum up the Pine pattern and how it can be transformed. The piece is about her experience living in community with a roommate. Here is what she read:
“One funny thing was how we both had a habit of saying “I’m Sorry”. I even said it to a piece of furniture one day when I bumped into it. Our time together shone a spotlight on “the nice girl” syndrome. Constantly saying “I’m Sorry,” is a way we diminish ourselves and hold onto perfectionism. “I’m sorry I am breathing and talking up so much space in here.” “I am sorry I did something and you may not like me.” I am sorry I am human, imperfect, and have lessons to learn.” By the end of our four months together we could laugh and joke about it and discover when to say it FOR REAL and when there was nothing to be sorry about. All is well.”
Working with Pine can help us become aware of this “I’m Sorry” pattern and begin to shift into the experience that “all is well” and that however we are and whatever we do, we are still deserving of love and acceptance. It becomes clear that the only one holding us to these unrealistically high standards and expectations is our own self.
One of the indicators for a remedy is that the pattern or issues are present or as we say in Bach talk, “at the surface” on a daily basis. There may be times when one remedy is indicated more than another and this is a way to assess. We also have 1 or 2 type remedies, which tend to be ones we work with throughout our lifetime. Either way, as we become more conscious and aware of our patterns, we deepen in our process of healing and transformation. Here are some questions that may help to indicate if Pine is beneficial:
- Are you a harsh judge of yourself?
- Do you tend to be extremely self-critical?
- Are you never content with your efforts or the results of what you do?
- Even when you are successful, do you feel you could have done better?
- Do you carry strong feelings of guilt and shame even when you have done no wrong?
- Do you tend to blame yourself even when others make mistakes?
- Do you have high ideals or expectations for yourself?
- Do you feel you deserved to be punished?
- Do you tend to pick on yourself with negative or critical voices?
- Does your incessant effort to improve yourself lead to fatigue or despondency?
- Do you feel undeserving of love?
The Pine remedy brings in the vibrational quality of Pine, which allows people to accept and love themselves, to release negative judgment or self-criticism and be open to living life in a more joyful way, free of unrealistic standards and expectations.
Some of the potential for transformation that emerges with the use of the Pine remedy can include:
- An ability to forgive oneself.
- Being able to feel regret rather than guilt.
- A deeper understanding of human nature and what it is to be human.
- Greater patience.
- Owning and accepting one’s faults without judgment or harsh criticism.
- A release of feelings of shame.
- Increased energy.
- Becoming able to set reasonable expectations.
- Deepening in Self-Love.
Affirming, “I love myself, just as I am” or “I forgive myself, for I have long since been forgiven” is the essence of Pine.
For additional information on the Bach Flower Remedies and Dr. Edward Bach, visit www.bachcentre.com.
If you are interested in a Bach Flower Remedy Consultation & Treatment, I offer these sessions in Annapolis, MD, by phone or by Skype. I have found the Bach Flower Remedies to be one of the most beneficial transformational and healing tools that I utilize both personally and in my holistic healing practice. I have worked with the Bach Flowers for over 15 years and I am a Bach Flower Registered Practitioner through the Bach Centre in the UK, home of Dr. Edward Bach. Please feel free to visit my website or contact me if you would like to explore how the Bach Flower Remedies and an Integrative Transformational Approach may benefit your own process of transformation and healing.
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